In this post, we are exploring the gift of speaking and having a voice. This gift is incredibly powerful. Our authentic voice is essential for self-expression, and they go hand in hand. If, for any reason, we feel that we cannot use our voices authentically, we will place limitations on how we express ourselves.
There are a variety of ways to use our voice
We can use our voices in different ways. We can write, we can speak, and we can create using our voice in many other ways. However, if we don’t feel like we can authentically use our voice and express all that we are, we will struggle to feel fulfilled in life.
If we have fears around, for example, speaking up, it is like we have a blockage in our throat; our voice and our self-expression can’t come through us. We find it impossible to stand up for ourselves and stand up for other people.
How do you use your most powerful tool?
As mentioned, our voice can be used for speaking, singing, writing, communication (and more). It is the most powerful creative medium and tool. It can bring about significant change, healing, encouragement, and light. But we also have the polar energy of destruction and darkness. We can also use our voices to create so much of that.
It’s so easy to make someone feel amazing, encouraged, and worthy, using our voice authentically when it comes from our heart. But it can also be so easy to create so much pain and suffering if that is our intention. So, it is important to use our voice with intention and in a way that is aligned with who we truly are.
- Do we speak light into people, or do we speak pain and darkness into people?
- Do we use our voice to create good, or are we using our voice to create destructiveness around us?
- What are the consequences of how we speak?
- What are the fruits? Yummy? Or rotten?
Do you have mental beliefs blocking your voice?
We can have many blockages around our voice and self-expression. In some situations, you might feel free to speak openly around authorities, but you may struggle to express yourself without barriers when it comes to your family, or vice versa. You might notice that when you’re around certain types of people, you struggle to express yourself truly. In contrast, being with other types of people feels super easy.
All of this stems from our past experiences, the programming we have absorbed from our families, society, and the culture in which we live.
Do you use your voice to uplift people or tear them down?
I believe we all carry a beautiful blend of feminine and masculine energy within us, regardless of gender.
Disclaimer: Many people get triggered when labeling things as feminine or masculine. If you find yourself among them, consider viewing these traits as different personality characteristics or think of them as electric versus magnetic energy.
The feminine voice, in particular, possesses incredible healing powers. It is nurturing and uplifting, capable of building up and even breaking down what needs to be released.
This is the duality of feminine energy, and its light and dark sides can both be used for good. For example, have you ever seen a mother defending her child? That is the dark feminine energy used for good – a power beyond limits! So yes, you might understand why the feminine voice has been under attack and why women, especially, have been so silenced for thousands of years. It’s so powerful. It holds so much potential. So it’s better to silence her.
But now, generally, our voice can interrupt negativity, shine a light on the good, and empower those around us. Isn’t it amazing how such energy can inspire healing and growth?
Learning the balance between silence and talking is key and requires maturity and wisdom
Having the gift of a voice doesn’t mean that we should talk all the time, scream all the time, or always express everything to everyone all the time. It is crucial to learn to discern when to speak, to whom to speak, and when to stay silent. In some situations, silence is the most powerful response.
Also, we need to eliminate blockages and fears stuck in our bodies if we want to speak freely and utilize our gifts. We need to feel like we can express all aspects, all ourselves, and authentically use our voice. If we feel silenced or suppressed, we’re gonna be loud. We see a lot of loud people being loud from a trauma response. We will be very protective of ourselves even though we might not be.
So, the voice is powerful. Is this always bad? No, sometimes it’s necessary, but I don’t think we can go on like that our whole lives if we actually want to do good and be fulfilled. Because it’s not who we truly are, it’s not authentic, and it has a tendency to divide rather than bring people together.
Both feminine and masculine voices are suppressed
In many cultures, the feminine voice is silenced, while in other places, the masculine voice is suppressed. Neither of these situations is beneficial, and both highlight an important issue that goes beyond the ”battle” between men and women.
It’s so essential for us to think about where we feel held back from expressing ourselves. What situations or types of people make it hard for us to speak up? Unfortunately, it’s all too easy to fall into the blame game, pointing fingers at men or women instead of working together to solve the real problems we face.
What we truly need is balance, harmony, and understanding where we all come from. Honor our unique qualities and differences rather than fight against each other. After all, we truly need one another, and embracing these differences can foster a beautiful harmony in our relationships.
- We need a masculine voice.
- We need the feminine voice.
You might be wondering why I suddenly brought up the concepts of feminine and masculine energy. I believe this concept is highly relevant to the topic of exploring our authentic gifts and self-expression. Each of us has a unique design, and when we honor this, we thrive—regardless of the balance of masculine and feminine energy within our blueprint.
The ongoing struggle between genders is not benefiting anyone. At the core of this issue is the fact that the differences between feminine and masculine energies are often neither celebrated nor valued in our society. It can seem as if we are trying to fit everyone into the same mold, but the reality is that we are all unique, and our differences are essential.
Everyone has their own strengths, and while no one is better or more worthy than anyone else, it’s important to recognize that we all bring different energies, talents, and gifts to the table. It doesn’t matter what your gender is; having more masculine energy doesn’t make you more valuable than someone with more feminine energy, regardless of your gender. I beelive we really need to embrace that perspective!
Embrace your true self by reconnecting with your authentic voice and expression
Let’s reflect on your childhood—back then, you were genuine and true to yourself, freely expressing who you really were without hesitation. However, as you grew up, life began to teach you that it wasn’t always acceptable to be your authentic self. Let’s work together to change that!
As adults, we need to reconnect with that authentic expression while also drawing on the wisdom we’ve acquired over the years. It’s essential to silence that critical voice in our heads that tells us how we should or shouldn’t express ourselves. This process requires effort, but it’s especially important if you want to feel more freedom, purpose, and fulfillment.
Many of us have faced difficult times that made us become more silent. Mental beliefs instructing us that speaking is dangerous were installed in our subconscious minds, affecting our lives 24/7. However, this is not a good enough reason to stop us from speaking out. We have the ability to rewire our brains and release the fears that hold us back.
There is a constant battle inside us and outside; the more fears we leave behind, the more quiet this battle becomes.
If you have this gift, you need to be heard by people and stop being afraid of speaking because you need to be heard. Everyone has been gifted a voice, but you might have the gift of speaking as your primary gift, tool, and talent. Then, this process is extra important on your journey to returning home to yourself again.
We constantly face a battle of fear, both externally and internally. This struggle involves a conflict between darkness and light, love and hate, care and fear. One does not need to have faith to recognize the ongoing fight between good and evil. It’s a skill to recognize this phenomenon without getting too emotionally affected by it.
Your gifts can’t be taken away from you…
…but you can abandon them by believing your talents are not good enough.
Our gifts can never be taken away from us. However, we may find ourselves surrounded by people who lead us to believe that we don’t possess these gifts or that our gifts are not valuable enough, causing us to abandon them.
When we shy away from practicing our gifts, we distance ourselves from our authentic power and the ability to be of service to others. Unfortunately, some forces don’t want goodness in the world; they resist authenticity and discourage the positive impact people can have when standing in their power. This is simply a reality we must accept.
However, we don’t have to focus on these negative forces. Just as they exist outside of us, they can also manifest within us. The more we connect with our spirit and embrace our authenticity, the less darkness and destruction can take root in our lives.
The brain circuits that you focus on and frequently revisit will become stronger
We can also explain what we discussed in the previous paragraph from a neuroscience perspective. The brain circuits we focus our attention on, the habits we practice, and the beliefs we nurture will become stronger.
4 Helpful beliefs to incorporate even if you don’t really believe them at first:
- If we choose to believe that we and the people around us are worthy.
- I choose to believe that everything is working out for us.
- We believe that I am beautiful and that the people around me are beautiful too.
- We are always guided and provided for, but perhaps in different ways.
When we concentrate on these positive beliefs, they become deeply rooted within us. So, what brain circuits (beliefs) do you really want to feed? Because the truth is that we choose every day, consciously or unconsciously, it’s not easy to discern this within, but it is possible, but it is a choice.
Below, you find beliefs that are not so very empowering to cultivate and focus on:
- I can never manage to get there.
- I’m not good enough.
- I feel worthless.
- I have to control the people around me to remain safe.
- I have to manipulate people around me to meet my needs.
- Concentrating on my bank account will bring me happiness and security.
- My needs are always a priority; if people don’t serve me, I’m going to leave them.
When we feed those destructive beliefs, they become stronger as well.
Which wolf are you feeding daily, the good wolf or the evil wolf?
There’s this beautiful Native American story about a son and his father talking about us and our consciousness of having a good wolf and a bad wolf. And I believe the son asks his father which wolf wins. The father tells him that the wolf that we feed is the one that wins.
And it’s the same thing with our brain circuits. It’s just a different way of explaining it. I don’t remember the story in exact detail, but that’s the intention behind the story, at least. Perhaps it wasn’t even a father and a son. Perhaps it was just a child and a wise man. Anyway, doesn’t matter. The point is that the wolf that wins is the one we feed.
Your story needs to be heard
So, our voice can be expressed through speaking, writing, painting, and, for example, singing; there are multiple ways to use your voice and express what is inside of you. As mentioned earlier, you need to be heard, especially if you have this as a unique and divine gift.
Everyone needs to be heard. But if you have this gift, you need to step into it. You need to practice some kind of communication. You need to give yourself space to practice expressing yourself. You can do this through journaling, writing, speaking, and singing. But you need to practice your gift. You need to harness your gift. You don’t necessarily need to put it out directly, but you must practice it.
Start before you are ready: You are never ready
And when it’s time to practice it out in the world, you need to start doing it before you’re ready. It doesn’t mean we should not be prepared. Taking things seriously and being prepared is good. But starting before you are ready is key because otherwise, you might never do it due to fear. Because it’s gonna be scary, but it becomes less scary by doing it. And if you have this gift, it’s gonna feel good even if it’s scary.
And let go of perfection. It doesn’t need to be perfect. You will progress as you go, and you will become better. But you must stop hiding behind the fear of being seen, shamed, or criticized.
If you are wearing masks, rejection doesn’t hurt as much
And you know, it’s easier to act this way in an inauthentic manner because if we are not true to ourselves, it won’t hurt as much when we face criticism. If no one is listening, it doesn’t sting as much when we put up walls or wear protective masks.
Still, you won’t feel fulfilled or aligned if you speak in an inauthentic way. You need to discover your authentic voice, which is your unique gift. There’s no one like you; no one possesses the combination of gifts that you have. Nobody has your story or your testimonial.
Showing up authentically is the only way to feel truly seen and connect
If you don’t authentically share your voice, you won’t connect with the people—your tribe—who need to hear what you have to say. Remember, you are not meant to speak to everyone; your goal is to find those who truly need your message.
Speaking to the right people in the wrong way or engaging with the wrong organizations can lead to feelings of misalignment and drain your energy. This disconnection arises because it’s not aligned with your true self or your core values. You’re not here on this earth to be liked by everyone, and it’s crucial to let that expectation go.
Not everyone will like and applaud what you have to say and that is just fine
We must also accept that when we begin to speak up, not everyone will appreciate it, and that’s perfectly fine. We live in a world filled with darkness, and as we embrace our true selves, stand in our power, and express ourselves, some people may react negatively. You may trigger their insecurities, critical voices, traumas, and inner struggles, and that’s okay. It shouldn’t be a reason to abandon your self-expression or deny who you truly are.
Why you need to stop pleasing your audience or people in general
And I believe this is one of the biggest mistakes people make and that teachers, coaches, and mentors make. They tell people what they want to hear. They want to please too big of a crowd because they fear there will be no crowd.
Your expression reaches its highest form when you discover it within yourself without thinking about your audience; that is how you truly serve them.
It creates a significant blockage when I try to please everyone. If you adopt this approach, you might miss the opportunity to connect with the right people. The same applies to dating and dating strategies. It’s essential to be clear about who you are.
If you try to ”please” a large audience out of fear of having none, you’ll probably end up going on dates with people who don’t share your goals and desires.
This not only leads to wasted time but can also result in feelings of unfulfillment and resentment. You might find yourself thinking, ”There are no good women out there” or ”There are no good men out there,” all because you weren’t specific and authentic in your approach. This is a major mistake to avoid.
So, don’t sacrifice your authentic expression out of fear. It will save you time and effort, and you might be fulfilled and happy instead of bitter and resentful being in the scarcity mode.
Allow yourself to be heard because you and someone out there needs it
You need to express yourself in some way; consider blogging, singing, writing a book, or creating videos on social media. There are various ways to share your voice and express yourself.
You will eventually rewire your brain to understand that sharing your voice isn’t dangerous
Start small and take one step at a time. Practice and gradually level up. Over time, you’ll begin to develop new beliefs and rewire your mind, body, and survival instincts. Sharing your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and perspectives on life no longer feels dangerous. By nurturing this new belief in yourself and actually starting to do it, you will realize that voicing your opinions and standing out is safe.
Annoying people is not dangerous either
You will annoy some people, and that is okay because this might be your gift, and your voice is powerful. It’s important. And you need to say what you need to say. Your story won’t please everyone, and that is just fine. It is not dangerous to be criticized. It’s not dangerous to be laughed at. It’s not dangerous to annoy people.
You have to get out there and embody this wisdom because it’s not until we do that until we get there until we take action, that we will embody this wisdom and feel that it is okay. Be okay with being seen, be okay with being heard, and be okay with being you, the authentic and beautiful person that you are.
You have a combination of gifts along with your testimony
But we don’t only have this gift alone; if we have the gift of a voice, we all possess it, but some have it more strongly. You also have it, along with other gifts.
For instance, you can combine this with being an administrator or organizer. You excel at developing systems and breaking them down into practical steps. So you might use your voice with an organizing gift and use it, for example, with coaching. You might make it very easy to grasp abstract and diffuse concepts by making simple step-by-step programs.
What if Einstein had a blocked self-expression? What a disaster!
Or perhaps you have the gift of knowledge and use your voice to spread knowledge. Take Einstein, for example. That’s a man with a lot of knowledge. He knew so much about physics and metaphysical principles and kind of said, ”I don’t know how I know all this stuff, I just know it.” And the information was downloaded from somewhere because this knowledge needed to be embodied into physical practicalities.
What if Einstein were too afraid to share his knowledge? We would have missed out on so much when it comes to research. Was he right about exactly everything? Perhaps not; I’m not that into physics and quantum physics. I know a little, but let’s face it, no one knows. His work created a stepping stone for other people to build on his knowledge and find even greater findings that would not have happened if he had blockages. He had stayed silent. And imagine what the world would miss out on if you, with your knowledge, your wisdom, and your experiences, stayed silent.
It is about authenticity, defining your expression, and discovering who you truly are. To express this, share your thoughts, beliefs, and opinions. When you connect with the right people, they will want to hear what you have to say, and it will feel good.
Truthseekers need to, at some point, share, not only search but from heart, not ego
You may be someone who seeks the truth and enjoys understanding how things work around you. Your perspective is unique, and no one else sees the world exactly as you do. As a lover of knowledge and truth, you might find yourself constantly researching and exploring various topics of interest. However, there comes a point when you need to stop searching for more information and start sharing what you have learned with others.
You only need to be one step ahead of your audience
Whatever your purpose in expressing yourself, you only need to stay one step ahead of your audience to inspire, teach, or guide them. You don’t need to have the complete picture, the entire story, or the absolute truth because these aspects are always changing. Some things are universal and remain constant, while many others do change.
If you have the gift of speaking and teaching, it’s likely that you love to learn and research subjects that are close to your heart. You may consider yourself a lifelong student, but at some point, you need to step out of the student role and embrace the teacher role. It’s important to share your knowledge because your unique perspective and insights can greatly benefit others. Only you can convey that information in the special way that only you can.
Practice being a good listener; you don’t have to talk all the time
The downside of having a strong voice is that we may not always be good listeners. We often forget that a significant part of speaking involves listening. It can be helpful to repeat what others have said to ensure we understand them correctly. Another pitfall of having this gift is the tendency to talk excessively, often just for the sake of talking—like experiencing verbal diarrhea—enjoying the sound of our own voices. This can lead to conversations where we speak a lot but don’t actually communicate anything meaningful.
Practice being grounded in your spech
Another shadowing sight is that your words can overwhelm people if you’re very excited, and your words just come tumbling out. So you might need to practice being calmer and more harmonized and permit yourself to practice in spaces where you want to speak and where people want to hear you speak. Because as I said before, only you can express the things you need to express in the way only you do!
