I believe it is, but is it easy to live life with an open heart? No.
When you live life openheartedly, you embrace a sense of fearlessness, meaning you can be fully human.
However, it doesn’t mean never feeling fear; it’s about doing it anyway. There is no courage without fear involved.
Many of us still hold the misconception that being open-hearted is a sign of weakness and that people who embody this quality are soft. In my opinion, the truth is quite the opposite.
Why is it so difficult?
Learning to live with an open heart after experiencing pain and betrayal is one of the hardest lessons a person can undertake. However, it is the only path to true happiness, connection, and freedom.
We all encounter hurt, and it’s challenging not to race walls out of fear when faced with pain in relationships. This response is instinctive, so to embrace life openheartedly, there needs to be a motivation beyond selfish interests.
Courage is Required
It takes a tremendous amount of courage to live from your heart.
Vulnerability isn’t just about crying; it can also involve challenging unkind behavior, ending destructive relationships, or voicing the ”unacceptable” in a board meeting. It’s about allowing your spirit and inner fire to guide you, letting your authentic self take the lead.
Confronting your inner darkness can’t be avoided.
To take these brave actions for the right reasons, we are required to confront our inner darkness and release fears. Because that’s how we know our actions are pure.
When you resolve your ego, your actions become purposeful, driven by a cause greater than yourself. There’s no personal gain involved; you do it for a higher purpose – outside of yourself.
My Wholehearted Why
As children, we lived with open hearts, but then we stopped. Out of a need for survival, it became more important to fit in, be liked, and seek attention. Of course, receiving affection and love can often mean not fitting in if that’s what is required to get noticed by adults.
Even ”angry” attention is better than no attention at all from a survival point of view.
Creating my life our of fear eventually broke me
My wholehearted reason for doing what I do is simple: running from myself and conforming to what I ”was supposed to do” broke me.
This led to diseases, burnout, eating disorders, and depression, which not surprising, when we shape our lives based on our fears. When we keep our bodies in a constant state of fight or flight—even during moments of rest!
Self-acceptance became my game-changer
Everything changed when I began to accept myself and stopped trying to fit into a box. Today, I have completely transformed and now experience genuine love and joy in my life.
Feeling at home in ourselves is what we all long for
My mission is to help others return to their true selves and find relief from their struggles. I see people suffering daily, creating unnecessary prisons of false beliefs for themselves. It breaks my heart. I have discovered keys to freedom that I feel compelled to share, no matter what it may cost me.
Your heart can be tough, but it is never mean!
When you let go of your fears and allow your heart and spirit to drive the vehicle through your beautiful life – you let go of the need to be liked. It’s like a heavy backpack that you can just drop, and you feel such freedom.
You care more about showing up in a way that makes you proud
Of course, you care what the people you love think, but you don’t care about what everyone thinks. What you think of yourself matters more, and that you can lay your head on the pillow at night feeling proud of yourself and how you showed up.
Most people live out of survival, so living wholeheartedly can feel lonely until you find likeminded
This way of living perhaps results in a little more rejection because you are not constantly adjusting yourself to be liked, which will aggravate other people’s darkness – and that is okay. You can’t avoid it. So we need to be tough, but not mean.
What is the difference between tough and mean?
Being mean means lashing out when attacked more or less; we want to defend and attack back. Tough people don’t do that. That doesn’t mean we don’t say or do anything, but it’s instead about setting boundaries and putting a stop to things, not proving your worth.
Important: Living wholeheartedly doesn’t mean being all soft; it means being courageous, authentic, and actually being of service in a caring way. Sometimes, the bravest and most loving thing is to set boundaries or call someone out for their destructive behavior. It is never done to prove our worth or to hurt, though – that is crucial to discern.
You are worthy
The truth is you, as your authentic self, are a beautiful, worthy, and valuable person. Are you perfect? No, everyone has flaws, and I believe one of our missions in life is to work and thrive on becoming better so that we can be of the highest good.
The world needs your unique gifts; no masks are required
The world needs your unique gifts, but you’ll also feel incredibly good when you walk in purpose and feel like you make a difference in people’s lives. Many people hunt for money and happiness without realizing that happiness results from meaning, trust, and purpose. Meaning can’t be generated long-term by only serving our own needs.
Accepting all of you is key to a courageous, heart-led life
It can be challenging to accept and love all parts of ourselves, especially when we’ve experienced rejection and abandonment in childhood. Our brain tells us there’s something wrong with us just so that we’ll have a better chance of surviving.
Don’t let your brain fool you!
Everyone has experienced some kind of rejection, and this does shape us. We change ourselves to fit in, but this is purely a survival mechanism because our brain does not prioritize feeling good about ourselves; it prioritizes us not dying.
Acceptance is essential for building the love we desire
Painful experiences can make us feel unworthy and not good enough, leading us to believe that we must be someone else to be loved. But you are worthy enough to receive unconditional love.
This doesn’t mean we should stagnate and not work on improving some parts of us. It simply means we accept all of us, and when you do, you can also accept others.
To receive unconditional love, we need to give it to other people as well, and for that to happen, we need to be able to give it to ourselves.
Mindshift: Focus on accepting all of you instead of loving all of you because that can be too hard, at least at the beginning of our healing journey.
I hope this helped you on your journey towards your desires.
